I HATE MY HUSBAND SYNDROME.

Have you ever gone through a couple of weeks where you think to yourself " Who is this man and why did I marry him? When all you want is to go have fun with your girlfriends and drink? Where you just want to disappear from the face of the Earth?

Every time I have a discussion with My husband I try not to FORGET that we used to be civil and quiet and lovey dovey with each other. We used to not want to let go of hands when walking down the busy streets of NYC. We thought we were invisible as a couple. When you are single with no kids, life is just simpler.

I think that one of the reasons parents fight is because its your responsibility to raise descent,  hard working , civil, understanding , polite, ambitious and strong human beings. The mere thought of fucking this up triggers fights between parents. Every parent carries their own bundle of problems, fears and  insecurities in their unconscious. Raising children a full time job.
We had a fight  triggered by our daughter and her bedtime. He was so pissed he went to bed without having dinner, as if he was punishing me for not eating what I cooked. I guess he put himself in a time out. He woke up this morning and didn't even say goodbye.  I sat after the fight last night and had dinner with a glass of wine and thought. " I hope this just passes by quickly, because I hate my husband right now.

When in a relationship where you are responsible for two human beings, is it ok for a mere second to  just want to not be married anymore? Will this urge to strangle your partner pass?

It is healthy to feel this way because at the end of the day, you realize that this was the person you chose to marry and the person you saw in your future helping you raise beautiful smart children. Also you will see that after the kids are grown up and gone to college the romance will come back, just hold on to your pants for a couple more years and you will see it will all pay off.

Men don't change and you wont either. Just play the game, be strong and keep the fights to a minimum.  Remember to go out on date nights without kids and wear sexy heels. Maybe you'll even get laid tonight.

HOW ABOUT A LITTLE KISS...

Do you ever make up stories in your mind while walking or buying groceries of that little kiss...
That some days you feel like you need a little kiss from someone who you find so attractive and so sexy that you feel you are being unfaithful just because you thought of it?...

Are we aloud to be free to fantasize with some hunk than the one you married ten years ago. Someone who might actually think that farting in front of you is disrespectful. That taking a dump with the door open is not a casual thing, that picking his nose and making balls out of his buggers is NOT ok... especially when you know you will be vacuuming them the next day?

These little things of course happen when you have spent enough time with someone. Privacy or space doesn't mean anything anymore. Still would you date someone that on his first date farted and then laughed about it?  Probably not.

What is it about couples and the lack of respect when it comes sharing a space?  Do we mind? Do they even think that we mind? I am not sure what goes through that head when he does these things and ... yes he just farted while I sat right next to him watching our favorite TV show.
What is it about the lack of romance and excitement in the bedroom in the day to day life?

I have been thinking that I have completely been forgotten in the midst of having babies, raising them, taking care of  the household, being a personal assistant, making sure everyone is happy, cooking , cleaning, fighting about ...
the surprise bath that my daughter gets every night since she was born five years ago, running errands ( thank god for bank apps and their quick deposit... hurray for this!) going to the park etc etc etc. I have been forgotten, I feel I am just the assistant now. Do this, do that, not even a thank you anymore! And then to top it off being belittled by getting asked " what did you do all all day"?

So yes... I dream sometimes that one day brad pitt will run into me at the local pharmacy or park or bank and not say anything but just give me a kiss and tell me how much he has been thinking of me. I do! Is this wrong of me?

I am free to think and fantasize about anything I want. The dreams I vividly have of Brad Pitt kissing me all over are very sexy and they do make me very happy in my sleep. I sometimes think what is it that I can do to get the romance back. The fun back. The things he did when he was trying to get me in the sack the first time, and the second and the third. The places and things we did when we had no kids and he was still thinking how he could enamour me so I would marry him and have his kids. What is it that couples lack these days? Is it trust?

Is the trust you have with your partner tearing you apart? Is the fact that you trust each other so much that you think that you would never leave him because of a little nose picking or farting under the sheets? I hate the farting under the sheets and the nose picking drives me up the wall! Yes the trust is the problem.

No I would not leave him for  such idiosyncrasies.


There is no marriage without trust though. So how do you divide the trust into two different things?

Lets call them Trust/respect     and trust/marriage

If I could just have him understand that all I want is a little kiss...